Saturday, July 18, 2009

We're having the Talk Girls.. (A little racy)

Now girls, I know this is going to come off as being incredibly crude and I'm actually aiming for that with this post, but I was thinking about


now not just about sex but about the lack of it while my marine is away, and I'm guessing most of you are dealing with it too. That's why I decided to bring it up in a post. I feel its one of the most UN-TALKED about situations when dealing with anyone in the service. I mean sex is a huge part of any relationship and don't let anyone fool you. I know when I get mad all I want him to do is show me that he wants to be me with me rather then another girl at a party or a girl we both stared at while at the strip club.

I've realized after knowing for so long that my marine was leaving that not everything was about how many times I went down on him or how many times we had sex before he left, it was more about how many nights I got to spend in his arms or how many weekends we had together. Sex didn't seem to be important, at least when I was getting some *haha*. Since he's been gone and I'm on my own, sex is something of an interest. Sadly he doesn't see it the same way I do. He's learned to tame the beast shall we say. I have to admit when I did see him within 30 minutes we were on his bed.

I feel that sex is a way to keep couples intimate, I mean it's not just about the act its about what happens after. The cuddling, the loving feelings that come up. The togetherness... I mean there's nothing stronger then that. And when it comes down to it, I'm not entirely sure I can do the 7 months without having him around and that isn't even thinking about sex. How do women do it? I mean I know the first answer I'll get is toys and such but when it comes down to it, the intimacy isn't there, yeah maybe you'll feel satisfied for a few days or a few hours or whatever but aren't you going to miss your lover even more?

Since my marine left I feel lonely at night and sometimes people on the street catch my attention more, especially if they wear anything that smells remotely to what he wears, and considering its axe I smell all over manhattan. I guess I'm trying to find out from marines, girlfriends, wives, lovers anyone whose dealt with the delayed gratification of having their lover in their arms again.

I know this entry is a little racy and I don't think any place online does it talk about sex, but I think it's so important to understand how to deal with something so natural and something so amazing and intimate, because honestly I'm not really sure how to get through that part of the deployment. Well hopefully this will generate some information for me to understand, considering that I saw my marine 2 weeks ago and I'm already missing the intimacy we had when I saw him.

Well I would greatly appreciate any input even if its in an email, I know a lot of women have different ways of coping and knowing a few would be a hell of a help. Anyways ladies, hopefully you can fill out the poll. I mean no offense to anyone through this blog or any of the entires I've written. I use this blog more to open up my mind for the picking and to understand new things. I am so new at this lifestyle I don't really know how to act or how to respond or how to deal with stuff. So you guys are the ones who get me through all of this. This is how I'm learning to deal with the fact that the love of my life, the man I want to spend eternity with, is leaving for 7 long months to fight for this country.

Sempre FI!

I hope all of your marines are doing well and coming home soon!


  1. I know what you mean. Ryan deployed about three weeks ago for seven months and that is one of the issues we've come across. The only fight we've had since he left has been about me sending him racy pictures. To take them takes me about two hours since I am setting it all up myself and I am super picky so most of them get deleted... plus I am not super comfortable emailing him them on a "public" base computer. Chaos ensues.

    His response to all that was this was the only form of intimacy he'd get for seven months. I told him, "Hello??? Not exactly getting any either! Just because I am a girl doesnt make this any easier for me."

    So that is the boat I am in at the moment. I am trying to deal with it the best I can but I am right there with you and understand how difficult it is going to be.

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  3. My fiance is in the Army currently in Iraq. He's been there since April 09...he was home on leave for 2 weeks and the first week I pushed him away..a lot. But I finally got over my own fears of him going away again and we made that last week the best. Its been about 2 months and he won't be back home until April or May and yeah i'm going crazy.

    I have 2 kids from a previous relationship so being a single parent on top of a soldier's girl is rough. I don't know how many times i've talked to him and told him i've been just fine, just missing him but not to worry because I know soldiers are strong but their girls are stronger for them. Lately he knows i've been bluffing.

    But anyways....I would have to agree, take pictures, maybe some dirty. Whatever you're comfortable with. We use our webcam and lets just say...we aren't very shy lol. You do what you have to do to get through this stuff. We talk a lot about what we want to do to each other...sure that might make you want him even more but that seems to help a little by knowing you can still get each other going miles and miles apart. If that makes sense lol.

    I hope your soldiers come home safe and soon!